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Help others find this article: Digg It! or Bookmark it! Share EXPRESSING ANGER Anger We all experience it. Some of us, more than others. Some of us, primarily when around specific people or situations. We certainly know folks who lash out, seemingly, at 'anyone and everyone'. If your partner is physically abusive, you should leave. Right away. (And, with your children, if you have any living with you.) Dn't worry about money. Or possessions. There are community-based or government-run programs in every state. You were not born to be a human punching bag. And you do not deserve it, despite whatever your spouse tells you. If they are verbally abusive, let them know that it isn't acceptable. Help them find other ways to express anger. There are anger management groups run in both private practices and government-backed programs. - Don't get caught-up in the verbal lashing out. That accomplishes nothing except resulting in an eventual 'upping of the ante'. And, any children will get the wrong ideas as to how conflicts and stress should be handled. If the anger comes from too much job stress, then help your wife/ husband find a new job or ways to decompress. - If the stress is from too much time being a stay-at-home parent, then help them get some out-of-the-home time doing something that they would find relaxing or fun. If money is the stressor, find ways to increase the income or cut expenses. Perhaps, both. If you are afraid of expressing your anger, verbally, be careful. Without a proper release, you will find other ways. And, they can backfire. Don't be a 'bitch' or 'bastard' by purposely doing things to get back at them. - Why not? Because they will either respond back in kind, eventually leave you, or find another way to make your life miserable. So, what should you do? Will any of this be easy fo some of us? No. But will it be worth it? Absolutely! 'Nuff said!
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